I have a Charlotte Householder, b 1822, d 1903 (no parent info), m William Tobias Gelwicks, b 1819, d 1883. They had two children, Valerious Clinton Gelwicks, b 1843, d 1915, and Rufus Malanthon Gelwicks, b 1844, d 1919. There is a Sarah (Sally) Householder who apparently married another Gelwicks. Do you have his name?
If you would like more information on their descendents, please email me. I would love more information on Charlotte if you have it - I have a friend who needs that.